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Man’s anxieties prolong loneliness
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Man’s anxieties prolong loneliness

September 11, 2018

I try to have normal conversations with people, but when I do, I have nothing to say. My mind goes blank, so I keep quiet and walk away. The only…

Daughter tired of religious talk
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Daughter tired of religious talk

September 10, 2018

More often than not, Mom’s not even home when Beatrice comes over with her pamphlets because they work similar hours. And each time, I find myself trapped into listening to…

Daughter drives mother to tears
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Daughter drives mother to tears

September 9, 2018

I treated her and her roommate to dinners out and stocked her apartment with groceries, in addition to making significant financial contributions toward her tuition. I’m also splitting the cost…

Woman wants equal relationship
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Woman wants equal relationship

September 8, 2018

I have been as patient and nice as I can be, as well as continuing to tell him how much I love him and want our relationship to work. I…

Friend continues to make bad choices
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Friend continues to make bad choices

September 7, 2018

She’s now dating another man who’s obviously using her. I have a hard time not telling him off when I see him. He won’t get a job and he keeps…

Family alarmed when boy hurts animals
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Family alarmed when boy hurts animals

September 6, 2018

He has been doing this off and on for the last couple of years. My daughter, my husband and I have been discouraging it the whole time. He gets timeouts,…

Fiancée wants group chat to end
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Fiancée wants group chat to end

September 5, 2018

I think my fiancée should tell his friends not to send these images and to change the group icon. My fiancée disagrees. He says it hurts no one and it’s…

Retiree wants wife to join adventures
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Retiree wants wife to join adventures

September 4, 2018

I would never have forgiven myself if I hadn’t experienced our frozen Jeep in Yellowstone or the eerie silence on the edge of the Hoh Rain Forest in western Washington…

Girlfriend hesitant about implants
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Girlfriend hesitant about implants

September 3, 2018

My dilemma is I have breast implants. I had the surgery 20 years ago when I was newly widowed and about to start dating again. I never told any of…

Unneeded calls offend friend
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Unneeded calls offend friend

September 2, 2018

I think it’s incredibly rude. It’s as if the recipient of the call is merely an afterthought to alleviate boredom while driving. No matter what the recipient feels or wants…

Accountant refuses pay for estate
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Accountant refuses pay for estate

September 1, 2018

He has refused to take any compensation from the estate for executor’s fees. I have told him by email and in person that Dad would want him to be paid…

Man refuses surgery for loud snoring
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Man refuses surgery for loud snoring

August 31, 2018

He sees a snoring specialist and tried several medical treatments, none of which worked. The only solution is a minor surgical procedure. He doesn’t want to have the surgery. He…

Dad not okay with pot at kids’ party
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Dad not okay with pot at kids’ party

August 30, 2018

Their daughter’s fourth birthday party took place last weekend, and once again, with numerous children running around, they slipped out for a toke before the cake was served. This may…

Unfaithful husband stresses marriage
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Unfaithful husband stresses marriage

August 29, 2018

As soon as it happened, he told me what he’d done. He said he felt like I didn’t love him anymore and admitted he made a mistake. I can tell…

Friend gets coworker a raise
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Friend gets coworker a raise

August 28, 2018

I have started looking elsewhere, and I have several interviews scheduled. All of them will give me a $15,000-per-year salary increase over what I currently make for doing what I…

Mom uses baby talk with adults
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Mom uses baby talk with adults

August 27, 2018

In addition, she insists on calling her son every day to ask how his day is going or check on him if he hasn’t been feeling well, again with a…

When can people leave dinner table?
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When can people leave dinner table?

August 26, 2018

My wife was raised to stay seated and be excused only after everyone is finished eating – holding everyone hostage until the last person is finished and extending dinnertime up…

Step-mom fights about flannel
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Step-mom fights about flannel

August 25, 2018

Our step-mom tells her she looks like a lesbian and that she gets one day out of the school week to dress like a “slob,” and the rest of the…

Couple argues about privacy
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Couple argues about privacy

August 24, 2018

This morning I locked the bedroom door for less than 10 minutes to pack my bag for a flight. I was running late and wanted to eliminate the distraction of…

Guests disrespect mountain cottage
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Guests disrespect mountain cottage

August 23, 2018

Abby, my guests have left holes in cushions, bubble gum on couches and someone’s child even peed in the bed. Only once in 10 years was I left with a…

Bedroom talk becomes graphic
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Bedroom talk becomes graphic

August 22, 2018

We have a satisfying sex life. About 15 years ago we started using graphic language during our lovemaking. We find it exhilarates and enhances our experience. We do not call…

Baby name reminder of tragedy
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Baby name reminder of tragedy

August 21, 2018

Fast forward: Another cousin is pregnant with her second child. She wants to name her daughter “Daisy” because she wants all her children to have flower-themed names. “Daisy” is the…

Friend seeks encouragement
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Friend seeks encouragement

August 20, 2018

I know she is suffering and blames herself for his crime. How do I even approach her? I knew her quite well until I moved away and started my life…

Family casts doubt on couple
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Family casts doubt on couple

August 19, 2018

My problem is his family. His mother curses and yells at him every few months, usually around the holidays when he tells her he’s splitting his time between his family…

Daughter’s birth returns memories of abuse
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Daughter’s birth returns memories of abuse

August 18, 2018

He recently told me he’s afraid of holding our 4-month-old daughter or changing her diaper in case he does something abusive by mistake. Besides constant reassurances and encouragement, how can…

Dad still doesn’t trust boyfriend
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Dad still doesn’t trust boyfriend

August 17, 2018

Gary is and always has been the love of my life, as I am his. He would do anything for me. He says he wants to marry me and have…