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Sibling sees signs of abuser in teen
He just turned 14, and he has just started dating. That got me thinking. If one day he moves in with someone or gets married, how am I going to…
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Shy addict flounders in dating pool
I have overcome addiction, attend daily support meetings and have almost a year of sobriety. I avoid bar/club scenes where a lot of people my age socialize. I’m beginning to…
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Kiss puts marriage on shakier ground
I recently kissed a co-worker. It was really hot, heavy and I want more. I haven’t felt this alive in years. My co-worker is not the reason I want a…
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Son mired in grief after dad’s death
I am somewhat prone to depression (especially around the winter months), but have stuck with my doctor’s orders about medication and exercise on a regular basis. I was in counseling,…
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Wedding planning causes rift
We have always been close. I understand it’s her wedding, but I would like some input because my husband and I are paying for it, and there are certain traditions…
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Teen lets her temper spoil fun
DEAR TEEN: If you think you are the only person with anger issues, you are mistaken. We are living in increasingly stressful times that have affected most of us in…
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Friend doesn’t share same desire
The problem is, I’m in love with him. He knows how I feel, and although he claims he doesn’t love me, he continues to spend every waking moment with me…
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Introvert slow at fitting in at new job
I’m sure if I reached out proactively and asked to tag along, I wouldn’t be rejected. But the thought of having to ask semi-strangers to include me and having to…
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Wife finds extra lingerie in bed
After I returned home, I went to make our bed. When I pulled back the sheets, I found a pair of lacy underwear that is absolutely not mine. I want…
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Homebody would rather skip plans
I have a routine I stick to that keeps my priorities in check. I get done with work, go home, have dinner, work out and spend quality time with my…
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A practical approach to dating?
First: I am not looking for a ready-made family. Second: I’m not in a position to analyze her last relationship, which left emotional baggage. Third: I am definitely not looking…
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Man refuses to talk about marriages
My husband loves to tell stories about everything he’s ever done, but he never says a word about those earlier relationships. Long ago, I asked a few times about what…
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Husband takes expenses to extremes
It bothers me that if we’re on a family excursion, and he’s driving my minivan and we get low on gas, he will fill the tank up only halfway. Additionally,…
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Unromantic man irks his girlfriend
I always have to take the initiative and suggest he do romantic things like send me cards or flowers, take me to dinner, etc., but he only does them when…
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Mom drags feet pursuing romance
She goes over to his place for romantic dinners, they talk on the phone at least once a day and he helps her with anything she needs around the house.…
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Mix-up causes invitation confusion
Well, when I called, she told me that our having been included on the e-vite was a mistake! She said there must have been a mix-up because my email address…
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Quilt may bring back sad memories
She and her husband divorced, and she has since remarried. They haven’t had children, nor do they want any. They are happy with their decision, and it’s fine with me.…
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Sparks fail to fly for single mother
She really likes him and would love for this to work and feels conflicted because she doesn’t know how to “light her fire” and find him intimately attractive. She’s afraid…
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Affair earns sister’s disapproval
She refers to him as her “honey,” and he buys her things. (She has always been materialistic.) She stays in contact with him constantly on her iPad and says how…
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Peace Corps plan gets thumbs down
The issue? Alexa wants to quit her job and join the Peace Corps! Must we just say OK to chucking it all and moving to a Third World country? Honestly,…
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Man deploys new rules in marriage
His latest rule is that I need to be covered when getting ready in the morning (“It’s not proper to be so comfortable naked, and if you respect me, you…
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Drunk driver’s wife has warning
Wives who tolerate their husband’s refusal to stop drinking need to be aware of the economic hammer the law could have hanging over them. I just went through this experience.…
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Transgender man hasn’t told parents
I have already gone through top surgery, but they don’t know about it. What they do know is that I am bisexual. How do I tell them that I am…
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Divorcing mom grateful for new friend
The last year has been pretty tough for all of us. I’ve been learning how to be both mother and father to them. I am also heartbroken by what he…
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Normal life eludes victim of abuse
I’ve sought counseling and therapy groups – whatever I could – over the years, to no avail. I just can’t shake it. I have dealt with flashbacks, nightmares, failed marriages,…
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Parents cancel holiday dinners
What words should we use to explain to both of them that we will no longer host holiday family dinners in the future? The conundrum arises if one of them…
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Grades make teen question career
I go to a very rigorous high school that’s known for being challenging, and I haven’t been doing well grade-wise since I started. I used to be a straight-A student,…
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Is long-distance dater missing out?
Although our time is spent communicating on the phone, I feel we have a strong connection, and I am devoted to him. However, my mom is concerned “because I’m not…
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Business trip raises questions
DEAR WORRIED: Although alcohol can be a part of an important bonding ritual across East Asia, your son may be able to forge successful business relationships in other ways. According…
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Opposing views could doom couple
Recently, my boyfriend’s mother and I got into an argument about my support and advocacy for the LGBTQ community. She’s very conservative and opinionated, and her viewpoints are outdated. She…