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Living with ex-husband a nightmare
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Living with ex-husband a nightmare

December 15, 2020

It wasn’t always a bad situation, but now it’s worse than I could have ever imagined it would be. He drinks heavily on a daily basis and becomes verbally abusive.…

New kitten brings comfort, conflict
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New kitten brings comfort, conflict

December 11, 2020

My niece, her cousin, recently died by suicide, and naturally, we are all devastated, but my daughter took the news especially hard. I had to be out of town for…

Dad’s girlfriend upsets daughter
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Dad’s girlfriend upsets daughter

December 10, 2020

I think their age difference is disgusting. He knows how I feel about it, and he doesn’t care. We fought, and I told him I wouldn’t talk to him anymore.…

Boyfriend’s true colors are revealed
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Boyfriend’s true colors are revealed

December 8, 2020

Four months ago, I was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer. I stopped by his house this week to pick up a rug scrubber and walked in on him having…

Mom sides with son-in-law over daughter
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Mom sides with son-in-law over daughter

December 4, 2020

Either way, she is my mother, not his, and she showed up with him to a couple of court dates to vouch for him to have custody of our kids.…

Tension makes holiday outlook bleak
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Tension makes holiday outlook bleak

December 3, 2020

Leyla’s fiance doesn’t care for me, so last year’s celebration wasn’t very fun, although I did enjoy my family. Her fiance and I have never had an argument nor have…

Trust issues are remnants of past
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Trust issues are remnants of past

December 1, 2020

Every time things are going well, I tend to self-sabotage and make excuses to push the guy away. I start arguments for no reason or create problems or issues that…

Prenup becomes wedding roadblock
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Prenup becomes wedding roadblock

November 27, 2020

We are great together. He has embraced my two children and especially my two grandchildren as he had none from his previous marriage. Because I bring more to his life…

Gift is more curse than blessing
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Gift is more curse than blessing

November 26, 2020

The problem is, we don’t eat cookies. Weight is a concern for both of us, and I avoid sugar or sugar products because I don’t believe they are healthy. Before…

Daughter dishes it out but can’t take it
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Daughter dishes it out but can’t take it

November 24, 2020

My daughter has had no compunction over the years about informing me about my shortcomings, but went into a rage when I spoke about her behavior. Although it breaks my…

Engagement ring unhappy surprise
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Engagement ring unhappy surprise

November 20, 2020

A week later, he told me he had made the purchase and we both couldn’t wait for our engagement ceremony as we took the next step in our relationship. On…

Habit pushes friendship to limit
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Habit pushes friendship to limit

November 19, 2020

The lies she tells are ridiculous. I find myself getting more and more angry as she stumbles through her stories. If someone makes a comment, she takes over the conversation…

Cheating confession devastates wife
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Cheating confession devastates wife

November 17, 2020

He decided to tell me because he didn’t want any secrets between us, and he asked me to forgive him. I forgave him, but I have been devastated ever since.…

Masks challenge deaf citizens
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Masks challenge deaf citizens

November 12, 2020

I am a deaf person and rely on lip-reading for communication. Wearing a mask has shut out my contact with the hearing world as far as communication goes. I have…

Letter-writing fades when needed
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Letter-writing fades when needed

November 10, 2020

I don’t accept the notion that “people just don’t do that anymore.” When I give a generous gift to a newlywed couple or a grandchild, the money came out of…

Woman’s relationship on the rocks
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Woman’s relationship on the rocks

November 6, 2020

What matters more to me are simple gestures like checking to make sure I get home safely, accepting and acknowledging my friends, acknowledging me on Mother’s Day, asking how my…

New retiree has advice for others
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New retiree has advice for others

November 5, 2020

I always had hobbies, interests and things I wanted to do but never had time for. I have been very happy and busy ever since. During the quarantine, getting groceries…

Woman can’t stand husband’s negativity
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Woman can’t stand husband’s negativity

November 3, 2020

I feel trapped. I don’t want to be single at 40, and I know somewhere in there I love him, so I’m working on my own energy so it won’t…

Man disinclined to meet half-sisters
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Man disinclined to meet half-sisters

October 30, 2020

I recently received communication from four different half-sisters I didn’t know of who discovered our kinship through DNA tracking. I am indisposed to a reunion. I may have felt differently…

Man unsure of future with fiancee
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Man unsure of future with fiancee

October 29, 2020

I knew she was bi-curious a year ago when she told me one of her married female co-workers was flirting with her and she kind of enjoyed it. Since then,…

Fashion choices cause embarrassment
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Fashion choices cause embarrassment

October 27, 2020

I understand the outfit would be OK for a formal race, but at the track? Why not throw on a T-shirt? The most recent example was a Sunday afternoon, ladies-only…

New mother on her own for child care
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New mother on her own for child care

October 23, 2020

She cares for the baby 24/7 and does all the housework, cooking, etc. If she asks him to feed the baby in the morning, he says, “I’m hungry, so I…

Widow’s kids begrudge her dating
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Widow’s kids begrudge her dating

October 22, 2020

Now, I am dating an old family friend I’ll call “Jeff,” who knew my husband well. He saw my spouse at his best and his worst, so I don’t have…

Friend fears woman addicted to meth
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Friend fears woman addicted to meth

October 16, 2020

I cannot stop worrying about this young woman, who I have watched grow since she was a baby. The red spots on her face, which I had assumed were from…

Late-night smoking irks neighbors
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Late-night smoking irks neighbors

October 15, 2020

It rains eight months out of the year here, and we usually keep our windows closed, so it isn’t an issue. But during the summer, we like to sleep with…

‘Perfect’ guy becomes abusive at home
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‘Perfect’ guy becomes abusive at home

October 13, 2020

We met after my husband’s death. Dylan was the perfect guy at first. Looking back, I realize there were a lot of red flags. He spends most of his time…

Togetherness tries man’s patience
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Togetherness tries man’s patience

October 9, 2020

I don’t sort the trash the way she thinks it should be, so I can’t take out the garbage without her first inspecting it. Not only do I not wash…

Dad wants death kept secret from kids
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Dad wants death kept secret from kids

October 8, 2020

I’m writing to you because my husband doesn’t want to tell our kids that their cousin has died – ever. We don’t see his family often – maybe once every…

Research exposes old murder charges
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Research exposes old murder charges

October 6, 2020

This has me reeling because she has always been a great and loving mother. When she heard I was researching our family, she mentioned that I would find something unsavory…

Man threatened by wife’s talks with ex
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Man threatened by wife’s talks with ex

October 2, 2020

I don’t know what to do anymore. My kids are 14- and 13-year-old girls, who are going through all these crazy teenage issues, which obviously, as their parents, my ex…