<\/p>\n
Montezuma County Sheriff Steve Nowlin on Thursday told participants in a community meeting that school policies must adjust to the dangers of bullying.<\/p>\n
Nowlin, whose granddaughter took her own life, spoke to about 70 concerned parents, teachers, school officials, counselors and students who gathered at the Cortez Recreation Center to discuss suicide prevention and the problem of bullying.<\/p>\n
\u201cApparently it did not happen soon enough, but there will be changes, and I will see to it because this cannot happen again,\u201d said Nowlin. \u201cI lost my best friend, and I don\u2019t want you to lose yours.\u201d<\/p>\n
He said the sheriff\u2019s office will help lead the way to help prevent bullying. He suggested more classes on youth behavior and coping skills, and more parent participation in the schools \u201cevery day, not just during special events. We all need to step up.\u201d<\/p>\n
Marinda Harrison, organizer of the Four Corners Bully Prevention forum, put on the event in response to two recent juvenile suicides in Cortez and Dolores. The goal is to bring awareness, promote solutions and identify youth programs already in place, she said.<\/p>\n
\u201cThe reason for this meeting is to build ties, figure out what programs we have and make them bigger and better,\u201d Harrison said.<\/p>\n
Dozens of parents and students gave personal accounts of being bullied or knowing someone who took their own life.<\/p>\n
Heather Nowlin said bullying played a role in the death of her daughter, Alana Dawn Nowlin.<\/p>\n
\u201cShe\u2019s not here because of bullying, and as a community we need to stick together to help our children. We need to work better with the schools and give students the emotional tools to handle situations like bullying,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n
A family friend said \u201cmuch older\u201d children bullied Alana. And the child\u2019s grandmother, Kathryn Nowlin, said the family was aware of some bullying but \u201cdid not know how bad it had become.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI am still in shock,\u201d she said, \u201cand am here because I want to do something about it so no family has to go through what we are going through.\u201d<\/p>\n
Students need to learn respectful behavior and how to stand up for themselves, said Sheila Wheeler, of the Tree House Learning Center in Cortez.<\/p>\n
\u201cI was bullied as a child until given permission to take care of myself, not back down, and become less vulnerable,\u201d she said. \u201cKids need strong advocates that give them strength to tell people to leave them alone.\u201d<\/p>\n
Another parent said her child was being bullied at a Cortez school and she regretted not knowing that it could lead to suicide.<\/p>\n
\u201cMy daughter has been bullied since the eighth grade. I can\u2019t get it to stop, and I don\u2019t know what to do,\u201d said another parent. \u201cI\u2019d like to learn the parenting skills to teach them how to handle those situations.\u201d<\/p>\n
Parents also expressed frustration with communication with their children, a lack of activities for children, bullying on social media, and what schools can do about reports of bullying.<\/p>\n
Since 2014, Dolores has had a sheriff\u2019s deputy in its schools to promote safety and communication. Deputy David Van Bibber is stationed at the school every day, and reports to the sheriff\u2019s office, which pays for the position. Reports of student bullying, crimes and arrests at Dolores schools are investigated by the sheriff\u2019s office and are available as part of the public record. The Journal includes summaries of such reports in its Sheriff\u2019s Blotter.<\/p>\n
Still, officials face a disconnect between parents and children. Nowlin attributed some of that to misuse of social media.<\/p>\n
\u201cIt\u2019s one of the biggest problems we have,\u201d Nowlin said. \u201cIt is different for kids today than when we grew up. Parents need to know what their kids are doing all the time and be ready to help and intervene.\u201d<\/p>\n
At the forum, parents and students filled out forms with ideas about how to address bullying and suicide.<\/p>\n
\u201cWe have all the resources we need right in this room to get things started,\u201d said Harrison. \u201cWhen we all work together and care for each other, it will make a difference.\u201d The Four Corners Bully Prevention program plans to hold another meeting next month. For information, go to their Facebook page at www.facebook.com\/4cornersantibully.<\/p>\n