{"id":103047,"date":"2017-10-26T17:03:27","date_gmt":"2017-10-26T23:03:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dh.durangoherald.com\/tj\/james-on-conflict-resolution\/"},"modified":"2017-10-26T17:03:27","modified_gmt":"2017-10-26T23:03:27","slug":"james-on-conflict-resolution","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dh.durangoherald.com\/tj\/james-on-conflict-resolution\/","title":{"rendered":"James: On conflict resolution"},"content":{"rendered":"
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du1-i-syn<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

I was raised the only boy in families that numbered 10 sisters. There were some \u201csteps\u201d and \u201chalfs\u201d in the count, but still it was 10-to-1.<\/p>\n

I had my own mom and two step-moms. I\u2019ve been married twice and had a hand (be it small) in raising three daughters.<\/p>\n

Ladies, I love you all.<\/p>\n

Which brings me to conflict resolution, because the two greatest acts of conflict resolution I have ever witnessed involved women.<\/p>\n

Wikipedia defines it as such: \u201cConflict resolution is conceptualized as the methods and processes involved in facilitating the peaceful ending of conflict and retribution.\u201d<\/p>\n

Two five-syllable words in one sentence. Imagine that.<\/p>\n

Both of these acts were back in the \u201cdrinkin\u2019 days.\u201d The first came as I was \u201cresting\u201d in the pickup in the bar parking lot. Two women came out by themselves, said some really unflattering things to each other and then \u201cgot after it.\u201d<\/p>\n

There was hair pulling and eye gouging and a couple of shots below the belt. It took a while, but finally a victor emerged. She pulled her shirt back down, fluffed her hair, checked her makeup in the car window and strolled back into the bar. Conflict resolved.<\/p>\n

The second was in Silver City, New Mexico, after the rodeo. In the bar, a small skirmish escalated to 20 men brawling on the dance floor. Quite a sight to see. Things had just gotten kind of settled down when one of the \u201ctown\u201d women came in screaming and hollering, worried about her man.<\/p>\n

One of the \u201crodeo\u201d women took about 10 steps and met the \u201cscreamer\u201d with a hard right hand. She went down like a bag of oats. Conflict resolved.<\/p>\n

I doubt that any of those four wonderful women remember those \u201cfacilitations of conflict and retribution,\u201d but they have been bright spots in my memory for decades now.<\/p>\n

Until the next solar eclipse \u2026<\/p>\n

Tom James was riding horses before he could walk. He currently hangs his hat in Ignacio. Reach him at outlivedthemallsofar@gmail.com<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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